How you fight with your mate reveals your personality, says a psychologist.
“When we fight, we let our masks drop – and our real personalities are revealed,” said Dr. Elayne Kahn, author of the book, 1001 Ways You Reveal Your Personality.
Here are the different types of fighters – and what their fighting style reveals, according to Dr. Kahn:
These people yell and scream during fights, shouting accusations and insults at the top of their lungs. If you’re a screamer, you believe in speaking your mind, regardless of the consequences. You’re not afraid of disturbing others, looking foolish or being criticized.
You’re a fighter in life and generally win. You’re also a loyal friend and care deeply about other people.
These are fighters who give their mate the silent treatment when they’re mad.
If you’re a sulker, you like to avoid confrontation and change the subject when something controversial comes up. You believe that time solves all problems.
These fighters dredge up things that were done or said years ago and inject them into a current fight. For example, when you say your mother is coming to stay for the summer, your “historian” spouse reminds you that years ago you promised your mother would never stay for more than two weeks.
Historians are very responsible and they follow through on their commitments.
These people let their spouse know they’re really mad by slamming drawers and doors and banging pots and pans. If you’re a noisemaker, you don’t like to impose your problems on others.
You like to vent your anger, but you don’t want to be criticized for doing so.